The Most Honest Mid-Year Reset You’ll Ever See (No Perfect Planning Here) was originally published on It's ADHD Friendly.
Ready for a planning and reset? This one is for the real person who creates plans, forgets they’ve created them, and goes on with their year until they realize it’s almost July and they haven’t done anything they wrote down in January.
That’s partly because of ADHD and partly because, hello, menopause. But here we are, and I feel like I just lifted my head up and the year was half over.
If this sounds familiar, grab a pen, your Apple Notes, Notion, or the back of a receipt—doesn’t matter—and let’s dive into the most realistic mid-year review you’ll ever do.
My Brutally Honest Goal Review
Let me start by looking at my goals for the year. Spoiler alert: it’s not going to be pretty.
Business goals:
- Financial goal that I am nowhere near (but that’s okay)
- “Improve my videos” (what does that even mean? That’s not really a goal)
- Make some YouTube funnels (I have done nothing of this nature)
- Get more strategic with titles and thumbnails (haven’t done that)
- Improve my storytelling (I’m dabbling here and there)
Under “what I wanted to simplify this year,” I wrote: “Planning: I want to have a plan and follow it.”
That is just priceless. How ironic.
But here’s the thing—it’s not like I’ve been sitting around doing nothing. Let’s see how we feel about what actually happened this year.
The Questions That Change Everything
Instead of beating myself up about unmet goals, I’m going to walk through a process that actually helps. I invite you to do this with me.
Round 1: The Reality Check
What is actually working?
- My sleep hygiene has been on point, which has helped me navigate uncertainty
- My eating habits and general wellness have been pretty good
- I’m feeling really good about my health overall
What is totally half-assed?
- This desire to create funnels in my business that do all the work for me
- If I’m being honest, that idea is unrealistic and magical thinking
- I need a come-to-Jesus moment about what’s possible versus what’s real
What do you keep saying you’re going to do but haven’t done since February?
- Being more intentional about building new local relationships and friendships
- It’s really hard when you work from home to want to put on pants, brush your hair, and go meet new people at the end of the day
- Especially when you’re an introvert
Round 2: What’s Still True
The things you aspired to do at the beginning of the year may not even matter anymore.
What still matters?
- Setting up more systems and structure in my business
- I’ve been loosey-goosey with my schedule this year
- I’ve moved from digital products to focusing on my new membership, the ADHD Business Hub (and if you’re a business owner with ADHD, please come join us—it’s awesome)
What have I outgrown?
- Instagram (for the most part)
- When you flip through stories, you never know what you’re going to see—puppies to war to tariffs in just a couple of swipes
- It fires up my anxiety, so I feel good about not spending time on that platform
What felt important six months ago but now feels kind of “meh”?
- The intention to sell the house and move to California
- At the beginning of the year, I believed moving would correct feelings of isolation
- But when we spent a couple of months in California, I learned it doesn’t matter what state I’m in—I’m a homebody through and through
- The awareness that “wherever you go, there you are” was a great learning lesson
Trimming the “Shoulds” (Marie Kondo Style)
This is about anything you want to do that starts with “I should” when you describe it.
Who told me I had to do this? For example, “I should be more social and get out more.” When I think about who told me this, it was my mother—the extroverted extrovert of all extroverts. My aunt used to say she would talk to the devil if the devil would talk back.
I am not my mother. That expectation didn’t necessarily align for me, and that’s something I need to let go.
Does this spark dread? Think about the things that give you that ball of dread in your stomach—the ones that make you want to crawl into bed with a bottle of vodka. Those are the shoulds you absolutely need to check.
If I didn’t do this at all, what would actually happen? This is the $64,000 question. For most of my shoulds, the answer is: nothing would happen. And sometimes nothing is good because sometimes you just want to sit on the couch with a glass of wine and recover from the day.
Finding My ONE Thing for the Rest of 2025
Based on everything I’ve covered, what do I want to focus on as my one thing for the rest of this year?
I’m pausing here because it’s hard for the ADHD brain to stop and prioritize. In my head, there are different things I want, but honestly, there aren’t that many.
I just want to be healthy and happy.
My one thing for the rest of this year is to prioritize listening to my inner voice. I know that sounds soft and woo, but if I listen to my inner voice and prioritize meditation and that mind-body connection, I’ll be guided more from what’s internally driving me rather than external noise.
I’m taking a lot of inputs from the world around me…the markets, what’s happening in AI, what works in business. I think my main priority needs to be checking in with myself and letting my inner voice guide my decisions.
If I spend more time feeling into my decisions rather than overthinking them (my default mode), I’ll probably get better results.
What’s Next
I’m going to look at how I’ve been planning my weeks and months and recalibrate based on going back to the basics. I always ask new clients to do values, strengths, and needs assessments, good ways to connect with what’s true for yourself in this season of life.
I haven’t done that for myself in a couple of years, so I might start there. If you’re interested in that process, I offer it in my Vision to Action template—one part planner, one part getting to know yourself better.
For my business, rather than setting monetary goals or having ideas about pretty funnels that will automate my life, I’m going to publicly commit to producing a specific amount of work—X amount of YouTube videos, podcasts, newsletters, etc.
Learning how to plan has been the one thing that’s enabled me to rein in my disparate thoughts and focus on actual structure. But the system I’ve been using is getting stale, and I’m starting to glaze over things.
If I want to guide my internal talk, it has to start with my external structure. That’s a guiding principle for anyone with a busy brain like mine.
Your mid-year reset doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be honest about where you are and realistic about where you want to go next.
